I was actually warned prior to signing up that it was a total waste of money, but I felt compelled to investigate for myself–primarily to round out my online dating study. Unlike eHarm and POF, there was absolutely no attraction to any of their prospects. They weren't awful... just no one that I would waste keyboard strokes on. Lots of middle-of-the-road men. A majority of the profiles were a bore. Not that I'm looking for the bad boy, but if you can't sell yourself–you're probably not the man for me.
Before joining, users are required to answer a series of questions to determine your personality type. This series was nothing compared to the interrogation of eHarm, but def way more intense than POF. The site separates people into 4 different categories: Explorers, Directors, Negotiators and Builders.
Explorers are spontaneous, creative and open-minded. Directors are decisive, focused and independent. Negotiators are imaginative, empathetic and nurturing. Builders are social, loyal and dependable. I was deemed an Explorer, although I was equal parts Negotiator according to my pie chart.
Chemistry is set-up similar to eHarm, where prospects are sent to you (supposedly based on your personality type and wants), but again I received a full range of "men" nowhere near what I wanted or needed. The following is a typical possible match:
I will say I did enjoy receiving emails with the subject line: Meet your match Johnny, he's a Builder.
Nothing hotter than a man that can actually make shiz happen.
I also thought my personality type was right on. Way more so than my astrological sign (Capricorn I am not). And what's the deal with people actually referring to their astrological signs these days??? Totally unacceptable, especially for the generation that knows nothing of the 70's.
More on my diagnosis:
About your personality
You are a highly spontaneous, inquisitive and energetic person who always likes to try new things. You find novel and unpredictable situations challenging and exciting. You particularly like discussing big ideas and having conversations about complex social, political or intellectual puzzles. And you are able to juggle a lot of projects at the same time; as a result you are sometimes a whirlwind of activity. You have a firm grip on reality and enjoy living in the present tense. But you have a keen imagination that enables you to lift off from reality to be remarkably creative. You are humorous. You are able to laugh at yourself. And you are agreeable, adaptable and changeable. You impose few limits on others and have little tolerance for fixed rules, schedules or traditions. You have a deep sense of compassion. You can show genuine insight into the needs of others; you are good at listening, talking and compromising; and you express a genuine desire to be helpful to others and to the world at large.
Relating to others
You are charismatic, agreeable and adaptable and you can adapt to just about any social situation, convincing others you are just like them. And with your flexibility, liberal attitude and lack of prejudice, you can find something interesting in just about anyone. But when your interest wanes, you depart; you cannot tolerate boredom.
In love and relationships
As an Explorer you like knowledge, adventure and the pleasures of the senses, and you are drawn to those who are enthusiastic, curious, creative and energetic-people like yourself. Sex is important to you, too. As a Negotiator, you have a big heart; you are flexible and sensitive to the feelings of others and you are driven to seek harmony in your social life. So you avoid conflict, as well as people who compete with you. You also avoid those who structure your time and block things from happening spontaneously. And you can feel pressured by other's needs. So you are attracted to individuals who share your "live and let live" attitude. Money is secondary to you, so you also respect individuals who can part with theirs, particularly when spending leads to adventure or improves the world. And you are drawn to people who are direct, decisive and tough minded to balance out your flexible, spontaneous, intuitive style.
For the most part, it's pretty spot-on. I don't think I'm necessarily as impulsive as it describes... I like to make plans, but can easily change them and I work well with schedule. You should sign-up (for free trial period) just to see what they make of you.
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For the record, 6'3 white guys with blue eyes are a pretty solid catch...
Def not ruling them out.
I'm not sure you satisfy his minimum height requirement.
A minor detail that can be dealt with a pair of killer heels.
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